Online dating outside the race...this isn't what Dr. King dreamed of. Day 28

8:52 AM

Nobody marched for the foolishness that is online dating.

The latest online dating episode should be enough to make me log off for good. I guess I'm out to prove to myself that this ish works, and that the bad dates make for good-azz blog content. *shrugs*

Before I get into it, allow me to clarify some things: I don't just bash Black men, I bash all men, and all people for that matter. Also, I date outside the race because of an attraction for a person, not because of a hatred toward Black men.

Now, over the weekend I met a man from Switzerland for drinks at TGIFriday's. We laughed, he talked about his boat on the lake, I talked about my writing business and he then talked about his aging parents who are coming to the states for a two-week visit. All went well but honestly there was no connection. Still, I'd like to think that he and I could be very platonic friends one day.We hugged and went on our ways, separately.

Two days later I send him a text, "Hi."

"Hi there. How are you?"

"I'm great. You?"

"I'm bored and horny."

Wait...what?! How did a text go from a cordial hello to "I need to let you know I'm thinking about sex so let's tell someone I hardly know." Fellas, this is not okay!  Even if it was okay, dude looks better online; he is wrinkled as hell, and somewhat pink, because he couldn't get a decent tan this summer. (We had lots of rain this summer.) I don't need no nasty images of him in my head.

I texted, "Wow. Thanks for sharing, but that's TMI."

He got an attitude, yo! The convo quickly turned into him telling me to delete his number and me telling him that I already did and that at that point, he was now harassing me. He stopped texting only after I told him I was contacting the police. Who knew telling him that would actually work?

I then wondered, did he see me as some Black girl he could just sex or be disrespectful towards? Also, what kind of women allow men of any race to text "I'm horny" two days after meeting someone? Girls, this is not okay!

Oh well, back to the virtual drawing board.

I have freed myself from yet another jerk; in the spirit of the 50th Anniversary of the March on Washington, thank God Almighty I'm free at last. Again.

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  1. You just cleared up that Jerks do come in all assorted flavors. lol

  2. Girl, you have me cracking up everyday! I know the black woman, white man struggle. It's like some think of us as wanton sex goddesses with the animalistic sex drive of a tiger.

    1. They can keep on thinking that.

      Having said that...I ain't gonna toot my own horn, but TOOT-TOOT! LMAO!

  3. You know the reason jerks do this of all races is because so many thristy women actually respond to it. Believe me they would not do it if it didn't work. Glad you have standards. Keep Hope Alive!