It is not my job as a blogger to give you self-esteem. Day 18

11:35 AM


After reading a direct message on Twitter, I feel the need to address this recurring issue for the first time on the blog. It will be the first and last time; I'm back on the online dating scene and I know y'all want to read all about the hilarity.

I blame the issues at hand on the countless authors, bloggers and Facebook admins who regurgitate the same ish:

"Why Black Women are still single."
"How to prepare for marriage."
"How to get a man/keep a man."

That's not what you will find here, so stop asking me for it! Those true to the SAH movement already know that I am not here to cover these topics.  Being SAH means just that, to find peace with yourself. How can you love anyone else if you don't love yourself first?

Having typed this, while I am elated to find that some of you are learning through my Teachable Moments and random articles found all over the inner-nets, I'm not going to show you how to love yourself, either. Here's why:

It's called SELF-ESTEEM. Katt Williams said it best years ago. Self-esteem is about esteem for yourself. I can't give that away. (Or try to sell it in a workshop...oh! I am so going to lose some followers today! LOL)  Self-esteem is something you have to work on continuously. Usually it boils down to not taking yourself so damned seriously and learning how to give fewer f**s about things that are not life threatening. That's it in a nutshell; but don't get mad at me if it doesn't work for you. Seriously, if you're finding yourself in need of advice, please, hire a licensed professional.

Remember the saying about leading a horse to water?  I can write books just on loving yourself, with research and everything. However, it's up to you to drink the water; I don't have any more babies to feed.

It's overdone like burnt chicken. You can Google your way into a higher self-esteem. Or check out the thousands of Facebook pages dedicated to "Grown Men" or "Grown Women" who love to share their thoughts for likes to encourage the world.

Until I am chosen by God to go further with the SAH movement, please, just enjoy the laughs and sarcasm. Thanks for reading my blog. :)

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  1. Amen. I strongly agree. I'm so tired of the "Why black women..." movement myself.
    Keep doing what you do and I'll keep reading. :-)

  2. True words. Why there are people who can't see the beauty in themselves, is an enigma.

    1. Well there are several reasons for that. Most stem from harboring childhood issues. One word: therapy. LOL I'm telling you, it works!